Raising Children in Changing Times

If you have children in your life – as a parent, grandparent, educator, or in any other way, the question of “What Should I Do?” takes on a particular urgency. You have likely asked yourself how you can enable them to navigate the complex and uncertain times ahead – to greet the future with creativity, flexibility, resilience, and joy.

“How can we nurture and raise our children so they can grow into adults who are able to survive, thrive, and contribute to shaping a new and different future?” is how I pose this question to myself as I look into the hopeful eyes of the children whose lives I have the opportunity to touch through my work.

If you have found your way to this website, you already know that the “rules” are about to change; in fact, they are already changing. You already know that most people in our society are not yet aware of the depth of these changes. 

The old paradigm of our culture, based on limitless growth, endless acquisition, and the belief that more is always better, is rapidly changing as we run up against the limits of a finite planet. Some people, myself among them, question whether these were ever genuine markers of what a good life means.

Already some people are beginning to create a new story about what a good life can mean, exploring ways we can live in mutual relationship with our planet, rather than viewing it as something to be exploited.

We know this transition, unraveling (or by any other name), is likely to be difficult, perhaps painful beyond our imaginings. While we can see the outline dimly on the horizon, the flow of history always plays itself out a bit differently from what anyone expected.

So, how can we share this new, emerging story of what a good life means with the children in our lives? Perhaps more importantly, how can we offer them resources to enable them, as young adults, to continue writing and shaping this story through their own vision?

Those of us who are adults today have the opportunity to craft tools to place in the hands of those who come after. This is true whether we are talking about our own dearly-loved children and grandchildren or children we are entrusted with as educators, counselors, or in other ways.

Understanding that we prepare the ground so future generations can write their own story has everything to do with an approach I have developed through my work, which I now share with you.

Tools for Shaping Their Future

For over 20 years, part of my work has been with children in difficult circumstances (children in Child Protective Services care, children who have experienced abuse, immigrant and refugee youth, and others). Daily I asked myself, what could I give them that might really last, that they could hold on to and use as they charted their uncertain future?

Increasingly, I wondered about the futures of all children, and how it would be very different from what any of them, or us, were being told by our society to expect. I saw that adults inevitably educate children for the world they inhabit, which is always different from the world children will live in as adults – and that this is true now in ways that it hasn’t been for previous generations.

I realized that the things I had developed to offer youth in difficult circumstances were exactly the things all youth need today to grow into and through the difficult times people and our planet are facing, to enable them in their own way to help shape a new and different future.

These are things that any adult can learn how to offer the children in their lives, things that can be brought into a wide range of situations. They are adaptable for youth of any age, and can be shaped to fit differing inclinations and interests.

At the core of my approach are four qualities and strengths adults can cultivate with the children in their lives and a wide variety of practices, activities, and experiences that can nurture them. You’ll notice that these things are interconnected and reinforce each other.

These four qualities and strengths are:

Inner Self

For youth to survive, thrive, and shape their own vision in a challenging and rapidly changing world, it is essential that they learn to know, value, and trust their inner voice, so that they may become deeply rooted in a sense of self. Beyond this, it is important for children (and adults) to understand that they have gifts to bring to this world, something valuable to offer to the times in which they live. I tell children that this is true even if they do not yet know what it is, because they are still growing and it is yet to be discovered – and that such discovery can be as joyful as unwrapping a birthday present.

Creativity and Imagination

“We are each born with a wild and fertile imagination, but to maintain that creative current and allow it to reach its full potential, it must be encouraged and exercised throughout childhood,” writes Bill Plotkin in Nature and the Human Soul, a visionary work exploring the eco-psychology of human development.

Creativity and Imagination are an integral part of what it means to be human. These invaluable qualities in normal times become even more crucial in times of change. By nurturing these qualities with the children in our lives, we offer them ways of knowing and growing their inner selves, finding personal meaning and enjoyment in life (especially valuable in complex and changing times), and, perhaps most importantly, as a way of meeting and seeking solutions to, or ways of being with, challenges and difficulties in life. Through cultivating creativity and imagination, we offer children resources for growing into and through the coming times, and for making their contribution to re-visioning what a good life means.

Connection with Nature 

We are a part of the natural world, and evolved within her embrace. Knowing ourselves as intimately connected to nature is perhaps as ancient as humanity itself. Feeling at home in nature, finding delight in the beauty of the natural world, knowing you are part of the web of life, are essential ways of exploring and strengthening inner self and the ability to act in this world and on its behalf.

“Imagination and wild nature are deeply and intricately related…” writes Bill Plotkin in Nature and the Human Soul (New World Library, 2007. ISBN 978-1577315513), “Every child needs adults who can help him experience his full membership in the natural world so that he knows instinctively that he fully belongs here and that he is as wild as any animal, wildflower, or cloud. Nature must become (or remain) the child’s friend, ally, and teacher – his home…”

Richard Louv, in is masterful work, Last Child in the Woods (Algonquin Books, 2008. ISBN 978-1565126053), describes the importance of experience with wild nature to the emotional, psychological, intellectual and physical development of children, the cost to our children of our society’s increasing separation from nature, and simple things we can do to begin to repair this breach.

It is perhaps our culture’s break with nature that has led our society to view our planet as merely a collection of things to be exploited. This, in turn, has brought us to this point of impending crisis, this “perfect storm” of the 3 E’s (Energy, Environment, Economy).

A revaluing of humanity’s connection with nature can be a starting point for coming generations to construct a society and culture based on a more integrated human relationship with our planet and all life on earth.

Joy, Gratitude, Wonder

We live in a magnificent world. The ability to find joy, gratitude, and wonder for the many good things life offers can enrich our lives immeasurably, strengthening our sense of self and our connection with the world in which we live. This valuable life practice in “normal” times can become even more important in times of turmoil and change. This practice can also offer a sense of the gifts we bring to this world and point our attention toward the places where we want to pour our passion and energy.

A Note About Resilience

It almost goes without saying that children (and adults) will need resilience to meet the coming times with all their challenges, dangers, and yes, opportunities. Resilience is a complex interweaving of many qualities. Core resilience is rooted in two things, the ability to be grounded in self (self concept and self knowledge) and the ability to respond creatively and flexibly to change. You may notice this is basically the same as the qualities of Inner Self and Creativity & Imagination. So by nurturing these qualities, you are actually growing resilience. 

Through Their Own Vision

There are a myriad of activities, practices, and experiences that can nurture these qualities and strengths. Many have developed during my years of working with youth. Many have been developed by others. Many more will undoubtedly be developed in the future. You may notice that there are already ways you are nurturing some, or all, of these qualities and strengths with the children in your lives.

Below I share a trio of simple yet powerful practices that you can easily incorporate into your relations with youth. Notice how they are interwoven, and how each nurtures several of the four qualities and strengths listed above.


We can create opportunities for children to spend unstructured time in nature, with no pre-determined plan, following what draws their attention, alone or accompanied by an adult who supports their wandering, following the child’s direction and pace. This typical childhood experience of not so long ago is increasingly rare in urban and suburban environments and is very different from today’s usual approach to nature. Adults can help children deepen this experience by asking questions about thing children are drawn to. (For example: “Tell me about what makes this special for you? If this rock – or tree or stream – could talk, what might it say? How does this make you feel?”)

Wandering builds a connection with nature and also develops the sense of inner self. This easy yet potent practice can have far-reaching impact. Renowned Earth Scholar Thomas Berry shares an example of this in his book The Great Work (Broadway, 2000. ISBN 978-0609804995). He describes a moment at age eleven, when he wandered in a wild meadow behind his family home, “A magic moment, this experience gave to my life something that seems to explain my thinking at a more profound level than almost any other experience I can remember.” Berry’s pioneering ideas in the fields of Deep Ecology, Eco-psychology, and Eco-theology have touched, inspired, and shaped the thinking of countless people worldwide (myself among them). The seed of his inspiration was planted in a wild meadow when he was eleven. Through offering children the experience of wandering, we can empower them to shape the world of tomorrow.

Free play, daydreaming

Making time for unstructured play is especially important in today’s overscheduled society. Adults can encourage children to follow their imagination using things that call out to them (twigs, leaves and pebbles, empty cartons and bottles, art supplies, their own toys, etc.) They can also support children by following them in their play, traveling with them, asking questions and listening, not directing or imposing. This nurtures the qualities of creativity and imagination and also strengthens the inner self.

“It is natural and essential for the child to fully engage and enjoy her imagination, a most fundamental resource for exploring the world and the self,” writes Bill Plotkin in Nature and the Human Soul.

Through free play and daydreaming, children explore and expand their understanding of their inner selves and discover their unique relationship with the world around them. Free play and daydreaming offers a safe structure for them to explore their emotions, including their fears, and to seek solutions for imaginary-world problems that can carry over into “real world” problem-solving skills.

Seeking Life’s Treasures

“If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder,” wrote environmentalist and author Rachel Carson (quoted by Richard Louv in Last Child in the Woods), he or she “needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement, and mystery of the world we live in.”

Guiding children in noticing the things they love in this world develops their capacity for joy, gratitude, and wonder. Knowing what brings you joy helps define and develop who you are, strengthening the inner self. Adults can help youth deepen this practice by asking questions about the things children love, and by suggesting that they gather items that represent these things (or write and draw about these things). Younger children often like using treasure boxes. Adolescents often enjoy keeping treasure journals or using photography. This again strengthens the sense of self and can help keep a person grounded in times of turmoil.

To Touch a Future Sky

Cultivating these qualities and strengths with the children in your lives and offering them these activities, practices, and experiences is not a one-time event. Rather, it is something to weave into the fabric of their lives, evolving as they grow, and with the particular interests and inclinations of each child or group of children in mind. 

As you offer these things to the children in your life, you are also offering them to yourself. You may find your relationship with your inner self deepened, your connection with the natural world expanded, your creativity, imagination, and sense of joy, gratitude, and wonder enlarged.

Perhaps most importantly, you may find your own feelings about the future shifting. Yes, there is more than enough to be worried about, more than enough fear and anxiety to go around. We know things will be difficult and challenging, in ways we expect and ways we have not yet foreseen. By offering the children in our lives inner tools and resources to not only survive and thrive, but to shape their own vision of what is possible, we will have, in our own way, contributed to the writing of a new story about what a good life can mean – we will have touched a future sky.



Dianne Monroe is an Expressive Arts Facilitator, mentor, writer, and photographer with over 20 years experience creating and leading experiential learning and arts-based programs. She offers workshops, presentations and individual mentoring on various themes, including Raising Children in Changing Times. Her focus is blending Expressive Arts and creativity with nature for personal, social and planetary transformation. Visit her website (www.diannemonroe.com) or email her to learn more.

This is a companion discussion topic for the original entry at https://peakprosperity.com/raising-children-in-changing-times-2/

I am glad to read this article about raising children in changing times, and agree with the suggestions given.
My wife grew up in the woods of New England, hiking - even in winter - and kayaking and fishing, basically having an appreciation for nature. I myself spent some of my formative years in rural parts of a Third World country, exploring the jungle with my friends, etc. I think these experiences really do serve to help people grow and find an appreciation for nature - but are experiences that few Americans these days get to partake in. Last Child in the Woods is a great book.


Thanks Dianne. Very well-written on a crucial issue in today’s world: how to bring up our children in these uncertain times.
I want to stress more on one of the developmental aspects mentioned here: creativity and imagination. I think this attribute is invaluable for a child’s growth. 

I believe schools today kill creativity, systematically. Here’s Dr. Ken Robinson, an education scholar in more detail as to why.


Thanks for your article.  It’s good to see the power of such simple experiences acknowledged.  
The almost unlimited time we kids had out on the mountain with our animals set the tone for my entire life.  I live blessed even though there has been plenty of pain and no matter what comes next.  The contact my young soul was allowed to have with the land gave it rich, direct knowledge of beauty, appreciation and joy  - a foundation that is always there, always ready to take me back to love.  There’s nothing I would trade for being able to feel the water, or the stoney mountain masses, or the arc of a seeded grass stem with the senses of an open heart. 

A question:  how do you include danger and death in your work with children?  As an adult, I am finally almost up to recognizing mortality - yeah, even mine!  It is hard to feel that part of reality at all.  I think there’s been plenty of encouragment to live with death as far from us as possible.  As I face my reactions to what seems a very uncertain, potentially dangerous future they provoke me to reconsider death.  I want something more grounded than unexamined fear of death determining my choices so I need to get mortality out of my blind spot.  I’m working on it…  But with my teenage niece and nephew for instance, is there any useful way to acknowledge the risks to life we may face?  We do talk about system weaknesses (local food supply, currency vulnerability etc.).  I don’t know how much they can or should be asked to digest.  Any input? 

I especially like the paragraph entitled "Joy, Gratitude, Wonder ".  I suspect that developing this capacity is as crucial to the future of the biosphere and our species as all the other prepping we do - plus it’s fun. 

Thanks -


Thanks Chris, Dianne, and Adam for responding to my question from several weeks ago. Great insight and information. I’ve forwarded it to my adult children and several friends as well.

Wow, this article explains a lot of things that I just took for granted or don’t think consciously about.  I spent much of my childhood out in the woods around my dad’s cabin in southcentral Alaska and in the large undeveloped wooded lots in Anchorage, just wandering, climbing trees, fishing on the lake, goofing around, poking funny looking things (and the occasional dead thing Tongue out) with sticks, etc etc.  My wife had a similar kind of childhood spending time in the Gobi and the steppes and hills in her country.  Maybe that’s a small part of why we’re a bit more grounded and easy-going than many people I know.  It’s so easy to take for granted the benefits of that kind of experience.
One of the things our 2-year old loves to do the most is throwing rocks in the ocean and walking through the woods near our apartment.  And in 2 weeks I’ll get to take him on his first camping and fishing trip.  He loves the outdoors, even more than cartoons.  And that’s saying something Wink

Thanks for this article…

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 I have children in three different decades and now grandchildren ,  so I have had experience in different times  .  This I know you have to purpose in your heart to instill these things into your children and be aware that they will be drawn and influenced  by the pull of the media and the world .  It  is a battle .

I had the opportunity today to work outside for 5 hours putting in an herb garden at somebody’s farmhouse and edging it with bluestone.  The weather here in the Mid-Hudson Valley was overcast and rainy with occasional blasts of lightning and thunder.  Temps in the 70s.
I deliberately did not bring weather gear – I just wore some old cotton sweatpants and a grubby t-shirt and my “gardening” sneakers.

As I worked, it rained on me.  For 5 hours.  Before long, I was soaked to the skin.  It was warm enough that there wasn’t any thermal discomfort.  I was aware of my clothes hanging on me (heavy because soaked with water) and clinging to my skin.  Which made me aware of my body the whole time.  Down on my knees in the dirt, mud sticking to me, smearing the mud off my gloves onto my shirt (purposely making an unholy mess, maybe this is a guy thing?), shaking the water out of my eyes as it dripped down from my wet scalp and down my nose.  Carefully placing each oregano, each basil, each cilantro just so in the wet soft earth.  There you go, little sister:  grow large and delicious.

Had to take cover a couple times when the thunderclaps got near enough – standing underneath the corn crib with nothing to do but watch and listen to the storm until the lightning moves on:  stitching together in my mind the nearby topography with the echo and rolling away of the thunder as it caroms off hills and ridges.  

Now the rain’s harder (there you go, parsley…and you too marjoram).  Now the rain’s softer (aaand boom:  chervil, aaand bingo:  thyme).  Now it’s stopped and the world is a background of the burbling creek 20 feet away, coupled with a descant of drops pattering down as the wind stirs the branches of the trees (enjoy your new world, purple sage).  Hm:  here comes hard rain again (which means it’s dill-plantin’ time).

When I was done, I stood hands akimbo for a couple minutes enjoying my handiwork.  Perfect day for planting herbs:  soft earth easy to work with and rain to refresh the plants in their new home.  Steam coming up off my body in the rain-cooled air.  Who knew?  I’m a one-man fog machine.  <smile>

Change into the set of dry clothes I’d brought.  Drive home (stop for warm cup of coffee – I guess my Celtic genes mean I can be cold without discomfort but my Czech genes are saying “fine, you’re all Celtic tough, now get a good cuppa to warm up already”), kiss the wife, describe the day.

“Ugh.  Working in the rain?  That sounds unpleasant!” she says.

Actually, it was marvellous.

Connection With Nature = Mental Health?  Hell yes…

Viva – Sager

[quote=SagerXX]As I worked, it rained on me.  For 5 hours.  Before long, I was soaked to the skin.  It was warm enough that there wasn’t any thermal discomfort.  I was aware of my clothes hanging on me (heavy because soaked with water) and clinging to my skin.  Which made me aware of my body the whole time.  Down on my knees in the dirt, mud sticking to me, smearing the mud off my gloves onto my shirt (purposely making an unholy mess, maybe this is a guy thing?), shaking the water out of my eyes as it dripped down from my wet scalp and down my nose.  Carefully placing each oregano, each basil, each cilantro just so in the wet soft earth.  There you go, little sister:  grow large and delicious.
Wonderful! Thank you for sharing with immersive imagery, Sager. Being in warm or cooling rain is a delight few enjoy these days.

I can relate.  When I could still run, running in warm rain was my favorite.  It is cleansing for the body and soul.

My grandson is here visiting and I took him to the park to show him the new picnic area near the waterfall-----
“I dont like the outdoors,” he said.

My reply, " I think we are due a camping trip."

We’ll get that in before he has to go home.

What a great narrative, Sager… you’re a wonderful writer!! We just had a wonderful drenching rain here, after a long drought, I really didn’t mind getting stuck outside.  It was actually great!  I loved playing outside in the rain as a kid!  … so many benefits for children to spend time outside communing with nature.   Time to turn off the TVs, computers, DSi and iPads and get the children outside… rain or shine!

[quote=SagerXX]Connection With Nature = Mental Health?  Hell yes…
Amen my brother…
During the worst drought of my lifetime, here on the Texas Gulf Coast, I find myself dreaming of that elusive mistress known as rain.

Very moving and inspirational! It would be a wonderful if more parents at least tried to help their kids in the ways you outlined. It’s painful for me to see kids who think facebook equals friends and spend their childhood in front of the computer. And it’s not just about their childhood. Who do you think is filling all the dating sites? - Anyone who wasn’t social in their youth and never learned to make friends and meet new people.

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The old paradigm of our culture, based on limitless growth, endless acquisition, and the belief that more is always better, is rapidly changing as we run up against the limits of a finite planet.
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