Raising Resilient Children During the 4th Turning

In October 2020, I discovered I was pregnant with our first child. This was a surprise because we accepted the reality that it would not happen after five years of trying. We were overjoyed, but also experienced a lot of concerns about how to safely get prenatal care and have a child in the midst of a pandemic and a lot of social unrest. Until then, we could avoid going into stores or medical establishments.

Our son was born in July 2021. Covid cases were down in my area, but we were still careful. We take care of my disabled father, a veteran with a lot of risk factors that up the chances of a more severe Covid case if exposed, and if my husband and I were to get sick, we don’t have access to help with our farm.

After my son’s birth, I continued to stay at home and not enter stores. My son has not interacted with more than a handful of people over the last seven months. Recovering from a cesarean birth, working from home, and caring for him keeps me busy, but it also makes me think about raising a child during the end of a 4th Turning and the chaos of Covid.

The Challenges

Mask Mandates

Masking is not healthy for children for a variety of reasons. Consider the following:

  • Masks contribute to respiratory distress and infection.
  • Masks hide the facial expressions of adults, so babies and children at schools and daycares during the pandemic have not been exposed to facial expressions and the associated emotions. This means kids have a harder time knowing how to react to body language.
  • An exceptional number of speech therapy referrals are occurring because kids are not learning to talk at a normal pace.
School: No talking during lunches

Kids need to talk with each other. This is a large part of how they learn to interact with others. At some schools, part of the mask mandates is that kids are not allowed to talk with each other at lunchtime. Asking school-age children to be silent during their lunch hour is, in my opinion, draconian and extremely harmful to childhood development. Being punished for speaking during lunch is nuts. Talking to another child should not be grounds for punishment.

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The Fear Factor

When kids are raised in an environment of fear, it can result in depression, anger and stress. I am not around many kids, but I have talked to other parents, and I have noticed that when I am around kids, there are far too many that are fearful, jumpy, and show a lack confidence. There is an unnatural meekness.

I have some experience with this type of behavior. While my dad raised me, there were times when I spent time with my mother and her mother. They enjoyed nothing better than diagnosing a range of medical problems. They would tell me that I had scary medical issues and drag me to the doctor. I had a few kidney or UTI infections, and they told me that I might have diabetes. They were so convinced. I had to take a blood test to convince them. They made me a nervous wreck at times.

When I bruised my knees too much playing outside or skateboarding, I was told that it could lead to blood clots or blood poisoning. Eventually, I learned that they were just batty and I needed to ignore them, but I definitely learned fear and paranoia can be unhealthy learned behaviors that is unhealthy and extremely harmful to a child.

In the age of Covid, we have a large portion of society whose kids are scared to do basic things over a virus that typically doesn’t cause more than mild symptoms in children. More child deaths occurred last year due to swimming pools than Covid, but no one is talking about banning those, so why are we subjecting kids to draconian measures for Covid?


Not touching other humans is unnatural. Sure, we all need to know proper limits and comfort levels, but some level of physical interaction is part of what makes us human. Always staying six feet apart and seeing other humans as dangerous is beyond unhealthy; it is downright immoral to impress this belief on our children.

Kids are not allowed to comfort each other or play games where they interact closely with one another. This leads to arrested development and it’s going to be very hard, if not impossible, to make up for it as they get older. It is critical to learn social skills while we are young and as we develop.

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Classes outside in cold weather, and open windows during frigid conditions is abusive and wrong

If you or I forced our children to sit and learn without heat, under very cold conditions, we would be charged with child abuse. Why are school districts getting away with this? Why is no one calling this what it is?

In January, the Boston school district forced forced children to sit in classrooms with the windows open despite frigid outdoor temperatures.

In other parts of the country, parents claim children are forced to eat lunch outside or conduct classes outside, even if temperatures are in the 20s.

Children are not dying of Covid at a rate that justifies this draconian behavior. In America, our most vulnerable and powerless citizens are being treated awful. The children are citizens we should protect the most from the corrupt system they are forced to be a part of.

Keep in mind, it is pretty hard for kids to concentrate on learning when they are trying to stay warm. In the case of Boston schools, parents were instructed to dress kids in multiple layers. Yeah, I know it is Boston, and most kids probably have a lot of winter clothing, but what about the kids that don’t have as many winter clothes as the wealthier kids?

How "the system" handles mental health concerns and behavioral issues

How we deal with the mental health of children and teens in this country is appalling. I realize that there have always been and always will be some people who have genuine mental health issues that are sometimes best treated with medications and therapy. Still, I guarantee you that we have far more kids that are diagnosed with problems and drugs thrown at the problem than actually need them. ADHD is one of the most commonly diagnosed childhood disorders. While some of the kids genuinely have a problem, plenty of them are just bored and under-stimulated.

If you ever take a look at a list of all the psychiatric disorders out there, it would be pretty easy to diagnose everyone with at least one of them because they are just more extreme forms of basic human emotions.

The problem starts the minute you walk into a mental health doctor or general MD. When parents come in, it is in the interest of the doctor to diagnose something, or the parent is not going to be happy. They paid for the visitor at least took the time to come in, so by golly, they better come out with an answer.

At this point, the child is labeled. They go to school and to relatives and proclaim their disorder like it defines them. I have never been able to get over how kids and parents will openly discuss mental health issues in public.

I get that parents want to help their children, but perhaps if a mental health issue is diagnosed, it should not be told to the whole world.

Also, consider that some children will use their diagnosis as an excuse not to improve. That sounds harsh, but I have seen cases where kids do not improve because they learn that if they do something that is not ok, they will face few or no consequences because it can be blamed on their diagnosis.

What We Can Do

Be honest

Kids can tell when you lie. Even if they don’t catch you the first few times at some point, they will, and then you lose some trust every time they catch you until there is no trust at all and a lack of respect to go with it. There are some bad things going on in the world but trying to hide it from them does them no favors. You do not have to give all the gory details. There are ways, to tell the truth without doing that. Offer them advice on how you as a family are going to get through. This could mean telling them a bit about your preparations or how to deal with the emotional aspects of hard times. As parents, it is up to us to teach our kids to see the positive things and keep the big picture in perspective.

Stand up to inappropriate public school policies.

A lot of people are not in a position to homeschool or send their children to private school.

Parents are going to have to stand up for their children’s rights to learn in a good environment. I don’t think I am alone when I say that many schools have overstepped their authority. Schools should be places to learn the basics. Morality, sexual topics, religion, and politics should be left to the parents to expose their children to. Public schools need to be put in their place.

Private schools are a different matter. Private schools have taught curricula based on a belief system for many years. The difference is that parents choose to send their children to these institutions because that is how they want them to learn.

Homeschool or create our own small schools when possible

My husband and I both work from home, and our schedules allow for enough flexibility to make homeschooling realistic. With more and more people working from home, homeschooling families are on the rise. The COVID-19 pandemic led to many schools only offering remote learning options that essentially turned us in to a nation of homeschoolers. Consider the following statistics:

  • Census Bureau’s Household Pulse Survey showed that the number of U.S. households homeschooling at the start of 2020-2021 doubled compared to the previous year.
  • The Home School Legal Defense Fund Director of Research Dr. Steven Duvall discussed numerous studies explaining why you should choose to homeschool. The top reasons are:
Concern for the health of the student and other members of the home if they became infected with Covid, particularly with families with health issues.

Concerns over safety. Issues like school bullying, shootings, and other violence were high on the list of reasons parents chose homeschooling.

Unhappiness over the curriculum and lessons being taught.

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There are options for parents who do not have time to homeschool

Get together a group of parents and hire a private teacher for your kids.

For some teachers teaching a handful of kids at home pays just as well or better than the public schools.

How might this work? Instead of 30 kids in a class, a teacher managing 15 homeschool kids can charge $500 per child per month; that adds up to $67,500 per year if school is in session for nine months out of the year. If it were just ten kids, it would still be $50,000.

In my area, the absolute cheapest private school is over $400 per month for ten months of instruction, and the class sizes are larger than 10-15 students.

Of course, there are challenges like having a space large enough to meet, how to handle lunches, operating costs, materials costs, etc., but for some parents, creating a private school with others is feasible.

In a two-parent home, it may more affordable for one parent to stay home

According to a poll conducted in May 2021, the average parent spent $750 on childcare during the 2020 school year and an outstanding $834 per month for child care during the summer months, per child. In the case of school-age children, these expenses are for child care that takes place outside of school hours. For two kids, this adds up to $18,336 per year.

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Now, consider the time spent on your commute, gas, maintenance, a nice wardrobe, meals away from home, etc., and add that to the cost. Then there are the things you cannot put a price tag on: no one is going to offer the love and level of care that you will for your own child.

Plus, with all the available part-time, freelance, and remote jobs, it may be better for you and your child to stay at home. It is feasible to work from home while your kids are at school or are homeschooled (with the right arrangement) and be there for them during the time that you normally pay for childcare. You may make more money at home and not have part of it eaten up by childcare costs. You might save enough in childcare to pay for a private day school and avoid the public-school fiasco too.

Split the Work: Take turns teaching with other parents.

With so many parents working at home, some may be able to share teaching and childcare duties throughout the week without the cash outlay of hiring a professional teacher. Consider working with a group of families. Agree on a curriculum and suddenly you enjoy a division of labor and your kids have friends, classmates and social interaction while getting a homeschool experience. This is a great option for parents trying to keep their social group small due to Covid.

I discussed more homeschooling options in-depth in a previous PP article.

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Think outside the box when it comes to child-rearing and education

I have voiced a lot of opinions and solutions that I think are worth consideration in this article, but I don’t know what is best for your kids. That is up to you. As parents, we need to consider the best path to take with our kids and listen to our instincts. You have the right to raise your child the way you want for the most part as long as they are fed, clothed, and not abused.

When it comes to education, consider that you don’t have to use formal textbooks or even sit inside in front of a computer. Science lessons can be done in the form of a nature walk. Geometry is a lot more fun if it involves building something.

Don’t let the state, other parents, etc., demand that you do what they think is best for your child.

Take steps that make children feel good about who they are

We live in a world where the blame game happens more often than it should. Children are asked to apologize and even feel bad about who they are. The sins of our forefathers are put on their young and innocent shoulders. Don’t let this happen to your child if you can avoid it, and when it does, be there for them and do what you can to make them feel good about who they are. Do not allow others to interact with your child that tell them that they are part of “the problem.”

Teach children to value all types of workers

For years children have been taught to look down on some professions even though those professions are necessary for society to function. Here are a few examples:


The average age of the American farmer is currently 60 years old. Although some younger people choose to farm, there are not enough to replace the number of farmers we are set to lose to either voluntary retirement or being unable to perform tasks due to age-related health issues. For years children were encouraged to leave farms and get a desk job that offered regular hours and a salary. Family farms have been sold to developers in many areas, making the land impossible to reclaim for farming. The costs and risks of starting a farm from scratch are too great for almost all younger adults.

Janitorial Work

I worked on a cleaning crew over breaks in college. We were in charge of cleaning all over campus, and it had to be done to institutional standards. I think it would do a lot of younger folks a lot of good to work on a cleaning crew for even just a week because then they would have a deep understanding of just what it takes to keep things sanitary and put together.

Don't insist on a four-year college education to be successful

There are so many jobs that pay well that require a certificate, associate's degree, or apprenticeship. Instead of going heavily into debt for a degree that a lot of kids are not that interested in getting, a young person can go to a less expensive community college or trade school for 1-2 years and start making money sooner. Part-time jobs or even full-time jobs are possible while going to school as well, so while a person may not make a high salary while in school, at least they are not racking up huge student loans with no guarantee that they will even use the degree they earn or find a job that justifies the expense in any way.

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I was the first person in my family to go to college, and for me, it was a good choice because it helped me start living on my own, working, and meeting people after being homeschooled for many years. I also was given the impression that a college education was the only way to achieve that. Like so many of my generation, I learned that we were sold on that idea, but so many people started going to college and graduating that a college degree was not that special by the time graduation rolled around.

While doctors, lawyers, nurses, engineers, etc., are all necessary for modern society, we need more than that. We need people to do so many other jobs, and we need to make sure kids realize that these jobs should not be looked down upon.

I think that telling children that everyone is the same can do some harm. It is naive not to acknowledge that people have different mental and physical abilities. It is better to know and accept this and find value in people despite these differences.

Find ways to teach hands-on skills to the children in your life

Peak Prosperity readers have a ton of different projects going on that their kids can learn from. My husband and I have been homesteading for years. We built our own house too. Here is a list of skills that we plan on teaching our son as part of his education. What do you have going on that you can teach?
  • Animal husbandry
  • Butchering and processing
  • Milking
  • Carpentry
  • Gardening
  • Canning
  • Cooking
  • Logging
  • Mechanic skills
  • Bushcraft skills
The list above is just a few of the things we can teach hands-on at our place. These skills provide a framework for other lessons that could be learned in a book but can be taught hands-on. For example, when we are logging and getting firewood, we can practice tree and plant identification when it is safe to do so. Gardening is a great framework for teaching plant biology. Carpentry involves a lot of geometry.

What is your biggest challenge as a parent in the 4th turning, and what are you doing to address it? What advice do you have for parent’s facings the challenges discussed in this article?

This is a companion discussion topic for the original entry at https://peakprosperity.com/raising-resilient-children-during-the-4th-turning/

I’m a tradesman in my 30s with two kids, one is a teenager and the other is toddler. Although I find most of the authors suggestions to be common sense and helpful, it’s important to hear from folks that have actually been through the gauntlet-not a new parent. It’s easy to wax poetic with ideas, but man, you will find that no amount of preparation and pontificating will really prepare you to roll with the inevitable punches. To pick on one subject, I have found education to be challenging regardless of the environment- politics in small private and/or christian schools; teachers that may have a more conservative worldview, but are talentless, venal and nepotistic; small budgets and generally just unbelievably incompetent staff that would have gone elsewhere had they possessed the brain power and social skills to rise in a hierarchy, and host of other issues that come up in these places. One more thing- I’ve been in the skilled trades for a few years now and I can tell ya there’s reason why the Dirty Jobs guy and all the other “learn a trade” shills out there aren’t in the trades- this is not something you are guaranteed to be able to do into middle-age. The work is hard on your body, and there’s no amount of good eating/sleep that’s going to prevent all the wear and tear. These jobs are physically tough, some would say exhausting, and often require you to grit your teeth a good part of the day. Also, if you don’t start a very successful company, you’re never getting rich doing this; you get paid well, but that’s it. So I’m not going to blow too much hot air and glorify the manual trades. If you have the aptitude and desire, college in pursuit of a career in an in-demand field would be my recommendation. With inflation the ways its going, under-the-table cash work getting pinched by pay apps and leery customers, with illegals taking over many of the trades, driving down wages, I sometimes get a little frustrated with the “learn a trade” crowing. Most tradesman want something better for their kids. Most of these chestbeaters haven’t pulled wire and run pipe in a commercial building or framed a house…or put an asphalt shingle roof on in the heat of the summer after a full tear-off, god forbid. There is a reason why most people don’t wanna do it or give up early.


we home schooled our children . Their chores included milking cows and a goat. Their profit was selling square bales with all the attendant labor. Our children are grown and independent. We are prepared for the remedievalization of western modernity. See you on the other side.
may your mare be settled, robie


If you have the opportunity, look into Waldorf schools especially for younger grades. One of the main appeals for us was the emphasis on no technology at school or at home. Don’t know where you’re located but we’ve been fortunate to have a public charter Waldorf-inspired school that my kids attended for most of their early elementary through middle school. Unfortunately, if there’s no public one near you the private ones are prohibitively expensive.
I must agree with those that pointed out the pitfalls of private schools with affordable tuition often being underfunded and hit or miss with the quality of teachers and other staff. Not to say there aren’t excellent ones out there, but it’s not necessarily a given that private is better. Same holds for charter schools which in our state get 80% of the funds that a public school would get per student. Through a variety of means the local school board which approves the school’s charter created enough problems to force high level staff changes at my kids school. The no media pressure ended and I believe that caused a gradual decline in their educational development. Another example of the advantage of deep pockets.
I tried homeschooling our son for a short time when he was in first grade. It wasn’t a good fit for us. I’ve noticed that many successful homeschool families around here have a religious community that pools knowledge, activities, and resources. It’s a tough go to do alone. As you mentioned, so far your son is an only child. Unless you have nearby extended family or close friends who homeschool with whom you can participate in activities, you and your son might find the set-up isolating. Depending on your state’s laws there may be legal impediments to some of the excellent suggestions you had about tailoring the subject matter or having different parents “teach.” Here in Pennsylvania, the curriculum must be approved by and submitted to a state approved auditor who signs off at the end of the school year on the portfolio the parents must submit for the student (I forget the correct title for this person.) There were requirements for PE, music, art that could be fulfilled by attending certain sports lessons or groups, piano lessons, commercial art studios, etc. but it wasn’t okay for your friendly neighbor who was a retired nurse, for example, to teach science. If we were to have continued with homeschooling, it would have been easiest to use an approved bought curriculum for the requirements and supplemented with our own preferences.
Overall through, schools were making kids neurotic before the pandemic nonsense and have completely destroyed children’s and teens’ sanity since. So I completely understand your preference for homeschooling. It amazes me how my kids feel it is their duty to follow the rules regardless of whether or not those rules make sense. I feel absolutely no obligation to tell anyone the truth about my personal choices over which they have no business asking. My kids have been brainwashed into thinking I’m a complete dinosaur for this line of thinking. Personal privacy has been eroded long ago and now it’s gone. This has been deliberately taught both in schools and on social media.


“One of the main appeals for us was the emphasis on no technology at school or at home.”
I have looked into Waldorf and Montessori schools, and this was a huge appeal for me. I incorporated elements of their respective philosophy into my homeschooling. There are elements, though, of each of these two systems of education that I found to be somewhat wanting, and certainly not appropriate for certain students. John McWhorter, who attended Montessori schools growing up, has observed this, too. Some kids just need more structure along the lines of traditional schools. I also had some concerns about an overemphasis in some areas of education and gaps in others for these two philosophies. Blending them with a more classical education seemed more balanced to me.
Regarding charter schools and homeschooling:
“the local school board which approves the school’s charter”
This is sort of how the process goes. However, when a local school board denies a charter school’s application, the charter can then go to the Charter School Appeal Board at the state level, effectively circumventing local governance. Cyber charter schools are approved at the PDE, completely circumventing local control and taxpayer representation.
“Here in Pennsylvania, the curriculum must be approved by and submitted to a state approved auditor who signs off at the end of the school year on the portfolio the parents must submit for the student (I forget the correct title for this person.)”
I think you may have misinterpreted the requirements for this. I, too, am in PA. The curriculum is not “approved”. A homeschool parent can build their own curriculum (some subjects must be taught but how they’re taught is up to the supervisor), use the school district’s materials, or buy a boxed curriculum–the decision is theirs. A portfolio of samples of the child’s work is kept and at the end of the school year, a homeschool evaluator reviews the portfolio and interviews the student and then certifies whether an appropriate education has occurred. The portfolio is not submitted–just the certified letter attesting that an appropriate education has occurred (a copy of the portfolio used to be turned in to the district, which was a redundant pain in the tuckus), since a certified teacher is typically the person doing the evaluating.
“There were requirements for PE, music, art that could be fulfilled by attending certain sports lessons or groups, piano lessons, commercial art studios, etc. but it wasn’t okay for your friendly neighbor who was a retired nurse, for example, to teach science.”
Maybe you experienced the homeschool law of Philly, which I know has different requirements and expectations from the rest of the state (it didn’t apply to me, so I haven’t read up on it). Since the parent is the homeschool supervisor, the person in charge of the student’s learning, having a friendly neighbor teach their expertise is fine. The parent is still supervising the learning. My friends and I often broke subjects up into pieces or by our respective expertise and taught the kids.
“Overall through, schools were making kids neurotic before the pandemic nonsense and have completely destroyed children’s and teens’ sanity since.”
I think this has been a fairly recent development, mostly following NCLB and the overemphasis on scores and testing. Zero tolerance policies play into this, too, if the school district uses such draconian things. Gotta always measure up to a faceless state and you dare not get squirrelly and step out of line because there’ll be zero tolerance for mistakes children make. Being able to consider something independently and judiciously and extending grace and mercy where appropriate gets smothered by over-enthusiastic rules and policies.
I had a rock solid education where I grew up in Iowa. Public schools can be outstanding.
“Personal privacy has been eroded long ago and now it’s gone. This has been deliberately taught both in schools and on social media.”
Not all schools. There are still people leading schools and classrooms who believe in not only the 1st Amendment, but also the 4th, 9th, and 10th when it comes to privacy and children. Children should not have their innermost world spied upon; they should be able to choose what to keep private and what to share. There are people out there in public schools seeking balance in education. Tinker vs. Des Moines decided that students do not "“shed their constitutional rights to freedom of speech or expression at the schoolhouse gate.” If you are free to express, then you should be free to keep things private, too.


Say you raise your son or daughter to think critically, stand up for what’s right, express Christian values and all the accoutrements. So now you have a young adult who will surely be cancelled by the mob. What college will allow their admission, or allowing it, will allow them to stay on to graduate? Who will hire them? Who won’t fire them when they refuse to confess their white privilege or espouse equity, inclusion and diversity? And even if they don’t get fired, what chances of promotion do they have?
In other words, when the whole world has gone insane what chance does a sane person have?


I understand where you are coming from davidrussell22. This world is not always fair, just, kind, forgiving, or easy. This world isn’t known as a valley of tears for nothing. We all suffer in same and different ways. However, I do not agree with your questioned premise that bringing up “good” children is a waist of time for this day and age. Children did not ask to be born into this world; they are a product of our passions. Parents have a duty and obligation (if not from love) to give their children the best foundations for a good life, not a worldly life. This foundation encompasses far more than just those attributes that directly lead to money, position, and success as the world defines it. Children raised with only the skill to make the world love them more will suffer more even if they become the richest in the world.


The world is already full of children left to fend for themselves!

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Say you raise your son or daughter to think critically, stand up for what's right, express Christian values and all the accoutrements. So now you have a young adult who will surely be cancelled by the mob. What college will allow their admission, or allowing it, will allow them to stay on to graduate? Who will hire them? Who won't fire them when they refuse to confess their white privilege or espouse equity, inclusion and diversity? And even if they don't get fired, what chances of promotion do they have?   In other words, when the whole world has gone insane what chance does a sane person have?
You are defining success by social acceptance, I disagree with that. What chance does a sane person have? ....The only chance. The 'crazies' who lack values, critical thinking, and personal courage are doomed. A sane person can more easily navigate a crazy world, than a crazy person can navigate a sane one. This world will not remain unglued from reality forever, there is alot of resources and energy being spent to keep the balloon in the air but its coming back down to earth when the fuel runs out...when it does, you want to have your feet on firm footing.    

Our children went to private Christian school, a charter school, public schools, and we homeschooled part of the time. I even went on to get teaching licensure and taught at the high school level. I have to say that my grown children have great character, are honest, loyal, loving, generous, and hard working. It’s not just me that says this–others have remarked on these qualities.
Neither my husband or I were very accomplished in hands-on skills, but, amazingly, our children have an aptitude for useful skills and have picked up so many that they are more self-reliant than we are!
I think you can get a good education anywhere, but only parents (or involved grandparents/friends) can impart good character. Yes, a teacher can leave a lasting good impression on a student–I was fortunate to have several of these in my public school education. And my children had several as well.
However, after being involved in public schools as a teacher, I am more convinced than ever that homeschooling, with the opportunity for outside learning opportunities and interests, is an investment in your children that is invaluable. And, it’s the most costly–not necessarily monetarily, but of your time, of building and modeling good character, of being intimately knowledgable of your children’s needs and opportunities for growth, and providing those, and seeking help when you can’t provide that. Not only will your children “rise up and call you blessed” but the society around them will benefit from their contributions.


The topic and scope of this thread has really touched me, so I’d like to add one more dimension to the discussion. We and our children are miracles. Out of millions and millions of sperm that has the capacity to create millions and millions of unique people with traits and gifts and characters all their own, the egg allows one to enter. Then, one survives the risk of abortion, miscarriage, and still birth. Think of the gauntlet each living child has survived just in the first 9 months of inception. And, in each, a unique purpose is created for the potential betterment of this world. In creating our children we are co-creators with God. How marvelous is that? But, even if we have not had children of our own, we are still co-creators with God by full filling the vocation God created us for. We are created in the image of God. Creativity is part of God’s image. How well we live into his purpose the better we and the world will be.
Jesus said, “I do not come to do my will, but the will of my Father “. That is a purpose for all of us. We have all been created for a unique vocation to full fill with our lives. Thoughtful and loving parents will do what they can to prepare and help children find their god vocation. To help tease it out. In turn, parents are full filling part of their vocation.
For parents and especially if you’ve had several children, haven’t you noticed traits even in infancy that you did teach them. Ways of doing things, personality, skills they are good at, things they seem to inherently do or do better than the other children. These are clues , a window, into the vocation the God created within this child. We are not just a blank and empty hull that can be programmed into anything. Much unhappiness comes from such attempts because the child ends up trying to be and live a life that isn’t full filling God’s vocation uniquely created for them.
From the Psalms, my life is always in my hands, but I never forget your precepts. Our free will always gives us the choice to do what we want, but like Adam and Eve eating the forbidden fruit, doesn’t turn out like we think it will. Children raised to be in the world but not of it will help them find a greater and better bliss than what only the world can give.
God’s loving mercy and blessings to all of you and especially to all you thoughtful parents who are finding good foundations for yourselves and your children — Brother Tom.


Agree totally Brushog…I believe the world is changing (it always does) and those who have skills such as the trades, farmers etc and know how to grow things, repair and build will have a much easier time. I was a contractor for 45 years (still am part time)and was always amazed at how many useless people there were (and still are)…I think it has gotten worse.My wife and I decided about 10 years ago to downsize and become as self reliant as possible.We grow our own food use solar etc etc…having said that no man is an island and it is important to live in a community where there are at least some like minded people…These last ten years been difficult at times (we are not young) but have been extremely satisfying as well.Re the crazy… some of the people in our past life thought we were crazy to do what we did but we have gotten through the last two years of BS very comfortably (some of the people who thought we were crazy not so much)so maybe we weren’t so crazy after all…perhaps the meek shall inherit the world after all…happiness is not a big fat bank account.


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Its an interesting topic. As I think about it, there are two points I see here;
#1 As stated in my previous post, its always an advantage to be centered, sane, logical, and right. Even in a crazy world, you’ll be at an advantage. Even if only for your own peace of mind, having your feet firmly planted on the ground is going to make life much more tolerable.
#2 As a parent bringing my kid into the world, I dont want to contribute to the madness by adding another broken, crazy person. Ive always been a big advocate for doing your part. I may not be able to change the whole world, but I can do my best with my part of it. If everybody, or even most people, take that attitude, the world will change for the better.


Again Brushog totally agree…we have two kids and for sure you must try to help them figure out their path in life.Having said that they are now both in their thirties and we feel we should respect the fact that they are adult and our parenting is different now than it was when they were young.
Re #2 we have found it interesting that some of our neighbors are seeing what we are doing and have approached us showing interest in trying some of the things we are doing so I feel that we may have a part (small) to help change things for what we consider to be better…baby steps.


Robie- love that your kids worked and sold things. Ours worked in my husband’s business and when we moved to a more rural area, they boarded horses (mucked, fed, watered, groomed) to make money. As a family, we also raised steer. Our grown children have a flock of chickens and have raised pigs as well. There’s nothing like hard work to grow character!


I agree!
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I would prefer if my son would learn more of English and did it with traditional tutors, not by robot or machine learning. I know that technology is going rapidly, but for me it is way too rapid.


My son said he wanted to learn Sanskrit, can you imagine? I also think that Sanskrit is important, but English is more important. And when it comes to learning English, I see no connection with it. And like the previous speaker I would go for traditional tuition like https://promova.com/online-english-tutors offers for example. The internet makes everyone equal in terms of rights and opportunities to study.

Sanskrit rocks, depending on his age and his mother tongue, learning a completely different language will make mastering other languages easier…
One never knows what their future will bring, but the majority of their life will be spent without us, in a world unbeknownst to us…